I am 1 of 9 children, we were all abused horribly at school and never knew why until I was grown and found out it was because my parents fought all the time. All of us kids had to pay for it at school, even though we done nothing wrong, or even knew why. It progressed into involving the grown boys  in the fights, sometimes in the streets in front of our house. We were beaten up regularly, and the teachers treated us as badly as the kids did. It doesn't only include the kids, as some people think.  A teacher is in control and can do as they please and you are helpless to do anything about it. You lose out on school, friends, education and a healthy chance at life. I don't really know who hurt us the worse, the kids, or the teachers. We were poor going to a rich school, and were never allowed to forget a minute of it. It never ends for you, the loneliness, the feelings of self doubt and inadequacy. No matter what goes wrong around you, you feel guilty and it is your fault. In a crowd of a million people, you are always alone. It locks your mind in a prison, it cannot understand, nor escape. If only people knew how the way they treat people, affects their own kids, and they in turn abuse the children of the adults, their parents are abusing. It is like a chain reaction effect. I abuse you, and then my kids, abuse your kids as well. So whole families are being crusified, sometimes for things they cannot control, such as having too little money. Although I could never do it, I fully understand why these poor kids are getting so tired, and their minds getting so distorted, that they finally break and fight back, and usually end up killing others. At least for a minute, you are not the one being walked on and abused for once in your horrible life. A lot of this starts with the parents, and the way they think they tower so far above other parents. and the kids seeing how they treat others because of it. If Mommy and Daddy do it, it must be ok, and these people must deserve everything they have done to them, because my parents wouldn't do this, unless it was the right thing to do. So I will just do my part, and help them out all I can. After all, these people must deserve this.

I Pray for all the abused children out there, being one of them at one time, I can fully symphatize with them and how they are suffering at the hands of the hitlers in our schools.

GOD be with all of them.

Thank you.

While physical violence should be a last resort in raising children, children must be disciplined and learn the social graces before being thrown together haphazardly. When I was raising my 4, Mama was expected to stay home until the kids antered the school at age 5. Children had structured naps,.bedtimes, and yes, playtimes, We saw the childrens reactions when theybecame tired. We used to say that you could tell which kids had working mothers. These were the the angry ones who got into  trouble  constantly. Our kids were read to and pampered, but not spoiled! I can only remember spanking a child once for running out in front of a truckwhile I was pushing his sister's baby carriage. I never had a problem with any of my children. and was only called into school once when he faced a bully and flattened him. Today all of my children have good careers

Just in reply: School bullies, I know this is a growing thing and it's more then should be. At my age I also had them at work and they had something on the supervisor so they (mother and daughter)  stuck together and everything had to go their way or no way.  I no longer work because of health problems but now I think back on all the things not just I had to put up with other also and five people quit because of them and still nothing done. I feel for the people that are still working there. After they lied to get their way and me out the daughter said now "we do rule here"'  was made!   I am 51 years old worked at the same place for 32 years they not even half that but I feel for kids that have to put up with that!!! They are there on all walks of life and I hope the kids don't put up with the things they do. I did and I am sorry I ever did. I liked my job very much that is why I stayed there and I figured why should I have to quit a job that I liked because of them. To this day when the daughter who has never grown up drived by my house and I'm sitting out front or when I drive in a car she flips me the bird!!!  I guess it's people like that, that never do grow up.  there's days I hope her two kids don't end up like them.   Thank you very much for listening!

by Cherie

You are so right
 
The damage that can be done to a person is irreplaceable
 
If only others would think before they act at times unless there is really danger & then our fight or flight response takes over
 
The big ? is how would you feel if the same thing happened to you
 
We have all done wrong at times but sometimes we just do our best
 
Hopefully forgiveness will come in a good way
 
I pray often & hope if & when I have ever done wrong it is forgiven & forgotten
 
Things that have happened to me I have done my best to forgive & forget but at times I have to talk about them to hopefully educate others in PREVENTION
 
I do not want others to have to go through some of the bad I have felt at times
 
I know this is life but the bad at times can be PREVENTED in good ways
 
I pray because that is what I was taught
 
At times it works other times I know I have to learn in a different way but I still keep praying anyway because I do not know what is on the other side or what the other has had to experience
 
Talking is best if at all possible before we act
 
I would rather believe than not because when My time is over I just hope for the best as I was taught
 
No one really knows
 
So I will just keep on believing
 
Have a good day even though rain is working on the flowers & helping this world to grow again
 
What ever weather you like have a good day
 
by Cindy

Bob-

Thanks for this very interesting observation. I've not heard this before - that one of the obstacles to addressing the problem of bullying may be that figures in authority with the power to address it constructively may have been socialized themselves to bullying in their younger years. If this has not been actively studied by public health, education and sociology researchers, it should be. If proven, it would suggest that our leaders and educators in contact with children may need training and desensitization themselves. Thanks again Bob!

Mike

Norma-

Thanks for speaking up. That took a  lot of courage - even years later. You so well express the lasting impact of bullying, and how, being segregated out for abuse has a lasting impact on your vision of the world and of humanity. It helps all of us better understand you and others like you who have suffered. There are, of course, many good and decent people is this world. But many are distracted, self-focused, or afraid to either speak up, come to another's aid, or put others' interests ahead of their own. I wish for you healing, and that the opportunity, in some form, be presented to you to help someone else who finds him or herself in the same condition that entrapped you. Blessings to you!

Mike